Caring for our Tender Hearts

“My wish for you is that you continue to be who and how you are, to astonish the world with your acts of kindness. Continue to allow humor to lighten the burden of your tender heart.” –Maya Angelou

Is it just me, or have you noticed that holiday season feels at times like a rollercoaster of emotions? There are moments of joy, sadness, grief— all in the same day. 

We are all a bit fragile during the holidays. Our hearts are especially tender. There are expectations, demands, promises, hopes, fears, worries, and grief all swirling together. We have our own personal challenges to deal with as well as feeling the pain of humanity’s injustices. 

We learn to honor the ups and downs. As we practice awareness, we are more willing to accept and allow our emotions and not get thrown off balance.

Here are some simple steps I take to bring me back to balance.

• Be mindful and acknowledge how I am feeling.

• Breathe and be in the moment.

• Be grateful for all the blessings in my life.

Love myself first and extend that love to others.

• Speak with loving kindness.

Here is a prayer that brings me back to Love:

I am grateful for this new day. I embrace this day knowing God is revealed as the radiant, energizing, joy-filled presence of Love. I know Love moves into the very cells of my being bringing light, harmony, and peace. I accept guidance to willingly let go of any resentment, hurt or disappointment. I invite the healing presence of Love to wash away any pain or darkness. I enter this day with a grateful heart and receive all the blessings Love has in store for me. And so it is. Amen.

May the light of the season guide your days with wisdom, fill your heart with peace and surround you with the presence of love.

Mindful Alignment for Gratitude and Awareness

“Healing isn’t just about a wound having the strength to close. Healing is also about a heart finding the courage to reopen again..” 

– John Roedel

Physical wounds are obvious. We can see the cut, clean and bandage it and allow it to heal. Emotional wounds are much more difficult. We cannot see them and they often unknowingly direct and influence our thinking. Thoughts become emotions and emotions dictate our actions.

On the spiritual journey, our work is to be the observer and be aware of our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. As the observer, we are empowered to respond rather than react. 

In his book Soul Awakening Practice, James O’Dea states that most of the time we don’t understand our emotions and we try to manipulate and control the outside world so that we won’t be faced with uncomfortable emotions. The wounds of our past are often running our present circumstances and they can limit our relationships and experiences. 

There are a few helpful steps we can take to heal emotional wounds:

  • Be willing to look at the emotional upset. Just like a physical wound, we have to examine what is troubling us and bring it into the light to be healed.
  • Be willing to let go. Lay down any anger, separation, or belief and observe the situation in a new light. Be willing to forgive.
  • Be willing to write a new story. Claim your good and declare what you want.

We often struggle with how to forgive and let go. But the good news is — we don’t have to figure it out. We can surrender to Spirit and be willing for a new story to emerge. Give thanks for the gift of awareness and allow the wound to dissolve and peace to emerge.

I am grateful for this simple prayer practice from James O’Dea’s book, Soul Awakening Practice.

Soul Awakening 
Heart Opening 
Light Shining 
Love Flowing  
Wounds Dissolving 
Peace Radiating

Visualize humanity surrounded with love and peace.

You are a blessing to humanity.

Peace Prayers

Peace is not the absence of war. It is the pervasive presence of compassionate connection.”  
– James O’Dea

My heart hurts and I suspect yours does as well. It feels like we move from one daunting experience to another.

In this trying time it can be challenging to know what to pray for. Here are three simple prayers to speak for yourself and others. There is great power in our collective prayers.

Soul Awakening Prayer  by James O’Dea

The prayer is repeated four times– for yourself, for a loved one, for community and for all humanity. I like to visualize a small pulsating light that grows with each statement and circles the planet.

Soul Awakening 
Heart Opening 
Light Shining 
Love Flowing  
Wounds Dissolving 
Peace Radiating

Prayer of Protection by James Dillet Freeman

The Light of God surrounds you. 
The Love of God enfolds you.
The power of God protects you.
The Presence of God watches over you.
Wherever you are, God is. 
And all is well. Amen.

This Thing Called You by Ernest Holmes

“When you become confused, stop and listen to your inner calm. Turn from the confusion to that deeper something within. Say:

I am submerged in peace.
I am surrounded by peace.
I am immersed in peace.
There is nothing but peace.
Peace–deep, calm, undisturbed.

Visualize humanity surrounded with love and light.

Know that you are loved! 

Company’s Coming

“In the short term and in the long run, how we treat people is our legacy. We have a daily responsibility to stay conscious of that and show up in ways we can be proud of.”    – Sam Horn, Talking on Eggshells

It’s holiday time! That exciting time of year when we navigate the emotional terrain of spending time with loved ones.  Anxiety, anyone? 

Some loved ones are a joy to be with. Others can be more challenging. 

Here are some helpful tips:

  1. It’s not about them. We often have attachment as to how we would like our loved ones to behave. In fact WE have lots of ideas about how they can live better lives. Breathe and step back. Practice letting go.
  2. Respond not react. Our loved ones know how to push our buttons. Disable your button. Disconnect from your high mindedness. Dissolve the need to have the answers. Practice responding peacefully and not reacting to situations.
  3. Claim your intention. Instead of imagining all the terrible, awful, dreadful things that the holidays might bring, practice visualizing what you do want. What is your intention? To have loving communication? To have peaceful interactions? To have joy-filled experiences? Set your intention before you venture out the door.
  4. Remember to breathe. Conscious breathing keeps us grounded in our awareness of our divinity and our oneness. Allow your breathing to center yourself in love. Pause and take a breath.
  5. Practice gratitude. Gratitude lifts us up to a higher vibration. In that vibration of love, all things are possible.

I am grateful for my many blessings… I am grateful my family…I am grateful for my body and good health…I am grateful for my home…I bless my neighbors and my co-workers…I bless the economy…I bless our country…I bless my spiritual community…I bless the world.

I am so grateful for you. You are a blessing to the world.

Heartfelt Communication: Speaking with love and compassion

Have you ever struggled to express your feelings, especially around loved ones? Do you find yourself carefully choosing your words, worried about hurting someone’s feelings? You’re not alone! The holiday season can sometimes amplify our challenges in communication, making us feel reactive and defensive. 

Join us for an empowering workshop where we will tap into the art of heartfelt communication. Together, we will cultivate the practice of speaking from the heart, transforming our interactions with authenticity and compassion.

Free workshop on zoom.

Monday, December 2, 2024 from 6 – 7:30 pm

Must pre-register to receive zoom link.

Let me know you plan to attend at revchristine@revchristine.com